Rodičovstvo nie je jednoduché a výchova dieťaťa je niekedy veľmi náročná. Práve preto je dôležitá súhra rodičov a ich vzájomná spolupráca. Aj keď dieťa vyšlo z tela matky, zodpovednosť nie je len na nej. Uvedomuje si to aj 29-ročný otec troch detí.

Napísal 5-bodový zoznam, ktorým by sa mal riadiť každý otec. Jeho príspevok na Facebooku si získal množstvo lajkov a vôbec sa nečudujeme. S jeho radami môžme jedine súhlasiť a inšpirovať by sa mal každý čerstvý otecko.

Odporúčania pre čerstvých oteckov:

1. „Manželka nosila dieťa v bruchu 9 mesiacov. Vy by ste jej to mali oplatiť. Noste ho na svojom bruchu, kedykoľvek môžete. Nielenže jej tým pomôžete, ale spojí vás to s dieťaťom viac, ako si dokážete predstaviť,“ 

2. „Manželka dojčí, no hoci je prekrásna, je to pre ňu vyčerpávajúce. Preto meňte plienky VŽDY vy. Cez akési prvotné znechutenie sa prenesiete rýchlo. Zabránite tým akýmkoľvek nerovnostiam vo vzťahu. Ak sa všetky priateľky vašej manželky budú sťažovať, akých majú doma nezaujatých a nepodporujúcich mužov, bude sa sťažovať aj ona na vás.“

3. „Urobte jej šálku kávy bez kofeínu každé ráno. Aj keby mala vychladnúť a ona na ňu zabudla, pretože zaspala od únavy, zatiaľ čo vy ste boli v práci. Celú noc bola hore a kŕmila dieťa. Pomôžte jej začať deň spôsobom, ktorý jej pomôže.“

4. „Hovorte jej, že je prekrásna a pomôžte jej vidieť to aj vo chvíľach, keď o tom pochybuje. Pripomínajte jej ciele, ktoré dosiahla v minulosti. Pripomínajte jej, že je superhrdinkou. Ona totiž prispôsobila svoje orgány a získala 20 kíl navyše iba preto, aby vám dala dieťa, ktoré bude darom do konca vášho života.“

5. „Majte nadhľad. Hormóny sú bláznivé, ako pred, tak aj po pôrode. Nebude vám pripadať svoja každý deň a občas povie veci, ktoré by inak nepovedala. Pamätajte, že vašou prácou je byť skalou, o ktorú sa dokáže oprieť, preto sa zoceľte a držte si odstup, ak jej jazyk bude ostrejší, ako by sama chcela. Normálna situácia sa čoskoro dostaví a chcete, aby bola vďačná za to, že ste zachovali chladnú hlavu, keď nebola sebou samou.“

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My wife @franzilovesmondays with a brilliant dose of perspective, truth, and gratitude. ⠀⠀ “Lets talk #paternityleave – I have never felt so emotionally safe and protected than during this postpartum journey. Why? Because @tedgonder had the chance to take a 4-week paternity leave from his #remote leadership position while kids were on summer break and new life moved into our house. Here is what this meant for us and got me thinking about: – he was able to take the boys on adventurous afternoons and get their energy out while I recovered and rested with little Atlas – we were able to sync as a family and feel connected from day one (and yes…that is important for dads too!!) – we share the love, the new emotional labor of caring for another child, and the commitment to making this family adventure a meaningful one (not exhausting one) for all of us – because I was living with and surrounded by my sister, our best friend and the kids' god father and my husband plus my mum I never had the feeling that I have to toughen up and just do it on my own. Where are all the communities and mama supporters these days? How have we as mums gotten to the point where motherhood is a race to the top rather than a shared vision of raising a village of strong, fun, fulfilled, and connected kids? – have we ever thought about the correlation of postpartum #depression and loneliness? Becoming a mom…no matter whether its for the first, second, or fifth time is a hormonal and physical sensation that should be a) appreciated and b) enjoyed… With my husband at home I feel like I was 100% able to do so. – last but not least: those boys are also my husband's kids. He loves them. He wants to be around them. He wants to make them feel like that we are a strong-rooted family… So why would he not benefit emotionally from this break of everyday work-AND family life and just be a #dad for a moment? ⠀⠀ As an entrepreneurial family, I am shouting this out to all other fellow entrepreneurs thinking about the #mentalhealth of their employees. Be at the forefront of making life possible for your teams- that is how potential and productivity get unleashed” #mytinytribe #baby #mom #digitalnomad

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Thank you, my love, for our beautiful children. Thank you for your family and relationship vision and belief in what we could build together, especially during times when I lacked proactive vision. Thank you for reminding me to take myself less seriously (especially in the mornings before coffee). Thank you for your courage to be radically yourself regardless of what others–including me–have thought. Thank you for owning your fears and asking for help when you need it. Thank you for taking care of your head and heart so that you have lasting emotional energy in the tank. Thank you for taking care of your body so you can participate as an equal partner with me physically, even through multiple pregnancies. Thank you for voicing your feelings before they are opinions, and the trust it takes for you to know I will hear you out before judging your feelings. Thank you for the patience to help me appreciate your invested household emotional labor–and then share the load. Thank you for always raising the bar for yourself, for us, for me–you make complacency impossible. And thank you for setting this example for our boys, of a strong, self-respecting, boundary-setting, ultrareal, baggage-shedding, norm-challenging, professionally ambitious, and fun-loving woman. It's such a joy to grow this garden with you. #family #love #relationshipgoals

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??Happy Monday?? ⚡️Let’s go!⚡️ ⠀⠀ Using my final week of paternity leave to set intentions and goals for Q4. For each, I am drafting a reverse engineered plan for where I want to be by Dec 31 and how I’ll make sure that happens through a combination of daily inputs and weekly/monthly milestones. What are your big goals and intentions before the year is over? ⠀⠀ Here are mine: ⠀⠀ 1. Reinvest in my physical and mental health. This means more stretching, more sleep, more water, more vegetables, more nature, more breathing, more reading/writing; less sitting, less social media scrolling, less sugar, less negative self talk. My family and colleagues need me to be in tip top shape, so I am using baby #3 as motivation to dial in my self care.? ⠀⠀ 2. Level up my dad skillz now that I have 3 (!) boys. This means lots of books and podcasts on mindful, conscious parenting so I can keep growing into the best dad I can be, amid increased responsibility and chaos. This also means studying more German so that my four year old doesn’t start saying things I don’t understand.????‍♂️ ⠀⠀ 3. Double down on my relationship with @franzilovesmondays. Weekly date nights, monthly weekends, and more coworking together during the day are essential intentions to keep us strengthening the foundations of our family and growing our passionate love for each other. ❤️?? ⠀⠀ 4. Accelerate my fitness learning journey. Want to build on my CrossFit L1 certificate and take more online courses about health and fitness so I can be better equipped to help myself as well as friends who seek my guidance on their own fitness journeys. ??? ⠀⠀ 5. Lean in bigtime to grow MondayVC. I recently joined the team at MondayVC to lead sales and growth, and am really excited to help the company take off like a rocket ship. ? More on this in a future post! ⠀⠀ What are your big goals and intentions for the rest of 2019? ⠀⠀ Comment below! ??

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